I work with a lot of researchers and certain, well-meaning researchers always make me thing of astronauts. They belong to wealthy, elite circles and have the resources (time, money, influence) to blast off into space and view the whole modern family thing from a distance, establish patterns, make individual and structural recommendations, and publish well-marketed books. Meanwhile, the fuel tanks these expensively-educated elites jettison to reach the stratosphere (i.e., the rest of us) do benefit from a global view but no real, immediately helpful policy or cultural change. Instead we get tips and tricks, 'perspective change,' and a view what things could look like if we had more money/time/better environment. It is not meant to be condescending, but it comes across, depending on your circumstances, as condescending.

Basically, I tend to really hate popular parenting books and/or podcasts by (again, well-meaning but out of touch) Ivy League or Ivy-adjacent scholarly types now. I hate them more than I hate advice from random strangers.